Tuesday, October 21, 2014

The highest calling a woman can have....

One trend, I have seen among the members of the church,  is the drive to have lots of children.  Most Mormons get married at an extremely young age.  I feel this is a result of being sexually repressed, so they jump into the sack, I mean marriage very early.   Many times the members become engaged to an individual they barely know.   "The spirit told me she was the right one for me".   The real story is that the two have hormones, and a common interest--the Mormon church.  After that,  the rest is history.    The church is the third member of the marriage.  It is like a triangle.

Remember the church has blurred the line between it and God.  Meaning, a member cannot have a relationship with God without the church. They are one and the same.  This diagram is kind of creepy.  I mean, who wants some ET guy on Kolob,  watching my spouse and I go at it.   Maybe He is addicted to porn.

 The highly touted "Proclamation of the Family" emphasizes the different roles for the husband and wife;

 By divine design, Heavenly Father gave men and women different responsibilities to help them fulfill complementary roles of husband and wife. “Fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children.

In other words, men are the "bread winners" and women are like June Cleaver.

The Young Women program drills this into the minds of the women.   A woman's role, in fact her highest achievement or purpose,  is that of a mother.   The church's own website states;

It’s the highest, holiest service assumed by humankind. It’s the definition of selfless service. It’s both a daunting responsibility and a glorious opportunity. The divine role of motherhood is a gift from God, and key to His plan of happiness for all His children.
 Also, from the personal progress website for young women;

Welcome to Personal Progress pink flower

You are a beloved daughter of Heavenly Father, prepared to come to the earth at this particular time for a sacred and glorious purpose. You have a noble responsibility to use your strength and influence for good. Your loving Heavenly Father has blessed you with talents and abilities that will help you fulfill your divine mission. As you learn to accept and act upon the Young Women values in your life, you will form personal habits of prayer, scripture study, obedience to the commandments, and service to others. These daily personal habits will strengthen your faith in and testimony of Jesus Christ. They will also allow you to recognize and develop your unique gifts.
Always use your influence to lift and bless your family, other young women, and the young men with whom you associate. Honor womanhood, support the priesthood, and cherish faithful motherhood and fatherhood.
As you participate in Personal Progress, you join with thousands of other young women who are striving to come unto Christ and “stand as witnesses of God at all times and in all things, and in all places” (Mosiah 18:9). Counsel with your parents, and prayerfully choose goals that will help you cultivate feminine attributes, strengthen your testimony, and reach your divine potential. Take advantage of your time in Young Women by preparing to receive the sacred ordinances of the temple, to become a faithful wife and mother, and to strengthen your home and family.

I don't have a problem with mothers.  Hell, we all have one.  But I wonder how many women in the Mormon church have given up personal goals or dreams to raise children.  It is burned into the minds of these young women.  They are taught over and over that their calling and greatest attribute is that of being a mother.  In the lesson on "individual worth";

  In your journal make a list of your hopes and dreams for your future home, family, and education and some important things you would like to accomplish in your life, including becoming a wife and mother. Then write a plan that will help you achieve your goals.

Make a list of your dreams and goals, but don't forget to put in there mom and wife because that is what we (the church) really think you should do.  What if the young lady wants to be a physicist, or a neurosurgeon, or pharmacist?   Why does the manual leave out those goals.  It is all about taking the individual's desires and replacing them with a Stepford wife mentality.   

Think of the impact,  women have had on society. Would Watson and Crick have determined DNA was a double helix without the data from Rosalind Franklin.  From PBS.org;

 Rosalind Franklin
1920 - 1958

Rosalind Franklin always liked facts. She was logical and precise, and impatient with things that were otherwise. She decided to become a scientist when she was 15. She passed the examination for admission to Cambridge University in 1938, and it sparked a family crisis. Although her family was well-to-do and had a tradition of public service and philanthropy, her father disapproved of university education for women. He refused to pay. An aunt stepped in and said Franklin should go to school, and she would pay for it. Franklin's mother also took her side until her father finally gave in.
War broke out in Europe in 1939 and Franklin stayed at Cambridge. She graduated in 1941 and started work on her doctorate. Her work focused on a wartime problem: the nature of coal and charcoal and how to use them most efficiently. She published five papers on the subject before she was 26 years old. Her work is still quoted today, and helped launch the field of high-strength carbon fibers. At 26, Franklin had her PhD and the war was just over. She began working in x-ray diffraction -- using x-rays to create images of crystalized solids. She pioneered the use of this method in analyzing complex, unorganized matter such as large biological molecules, and not just single crystals.
She spent three years in France, enjoying the work atmosphere, the freedoms of peacetime, the French food and culture. But in 1950, she realized that if she wanted to make a scientific career in England, she had to go back. She was invited to King's College in London to join a team of scientists studying living cells. The leader of the team assigned her to work on DNA with a graduate student. Franklin's assumption was that it was her own project. The laboratory's second-in-command, Maurice Wilkins, was on vacation at the time, and when he returned, their relationship was muddled. He assumed she was to assist his work; she assumed she'd be the only one working on DNA. They had powerful personality differences as well: Franklin direct, quick, decisive, and Wilkins shy, speculative, and passive. This would play a role in the coming years as the race unfolded to find the structure of DNA.
Franklin made marked advances in x-ray diffraction techniques with DNA. She adjusted her equipment to produce an extremely fine beam of x-rays. She extracted finer DNA fibers than ever before and arranged them in parallel bundles. And she studied the fibers' reactions to humid conditions. All of these allowed her to discover crucial keys to DNA's structure. Wilkins shared her data, without her knowledge, with James Watson and Francis Crick, at Cambridge University, and they pulled ahead in the race, ultimately publishing the proposed structure of DNA in March, 1953.
The strained relationship with Wilkins and other aspects of King's College (the women scientists were not allowed to eat lunch in the common room where the men did, for example) led Franklin to seek another position. She headed her own research group at Birkbeck College in London. But the head of King's let her go on the condition she would not work on DNA. Franklin returned to her studies of coal and also wrapped up her DNA work. She turned her attention to viruses, publishing 17 papers in five years. Her group's findings laid the foundation for structural virology.
While on a professional visit to the United States, Franklin had episodes of pain that she soon learned were ovarian cancer. She continued working over the next two years, through three operations and experimental chemotherapy and a 10-month remission. She worked up until a few weeks before her death in 1958 at age 37.

 What about Irene Joliot-Curie;

Irène Joliot-Curie (12 September 1897 – 17 March 1956) was a French scientist, the daughter of Marie Curie and Pierre Curie and the wife of Frédéric Joliot-Curie. Jointly with her husband, Joliot-Curie was awarded the Nobel Prize for chemistry in 1935 for their discovery of artificial radioactivity. This made the Curies the family with the most Nobel laureates to date.

The list could continue.  I do think  Mormon women today are breaking the  Stepford mold.   With the notoriety of Kate Kelly and the Ordain Woman movement,  to Jerusha Hess, it is becoming more accepted to step out of the LDS norm.  Certainly the latest movie,  Meet the Mormons, shows a different side of some unique members.  I'm sure that James Faust would recant his words from general conference in April 2000 when coming face to face with Carolina Munoz Marin;

Unfortunately, we see some very poor role models of womanhood in today’s society. We see women boxers and wrestlers as we flip through the television channels trying to find something uplifting. I believe the women of our time need to be strong, but not in that sense. In my opinion, these activities demean the nobility of womanhood. Young women need to be strong in righteousness, and, to quote your current theme, “to stand as witnesses of God at all times and in all things, and in all places.” 5

The Mormon church drills into the young women that their whole purpose is to get married and have children.  This programming produces very young brides who immediately begin having children.  Many drop out of college, quit vocational schools and stop pursuing personal dreams.   This stifles the personal growth of the woman.  They place their dreams on hold to follow the church's definition of who they should be, a modern day June Cleaver.  


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